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Getting Divorced with Children in Delaware: Complete 2026 Custody, Support & Co-Parenting Guide

By Antonio G. Jimenez, Esq.Delaware15 min read

At a Glance

Residency requirement:
Either you or your spouse must have lived in Delaware (or been stationed in the state as a member of the U.S. armed forces) continuously for at least six months immediately before filing the divorce petition (13 Del.C. §1504(a)). There is no additional county-level residency requirement — you simply file in the county where either spouse lives.
Filing fee:
$155–$175
Waiting period:
Delaware uses the Melson Formula (also called the Delaware Child Support Formula), found in Family Court Civil Rules 500–510, to calculate child support. The formula considers both parents' incomes, each parent's basic self-support needs, the number of children, childcare and healthcare costs, and the number of overnights the child spends with each parent. It is a rebuttable presumption, meaning the court may deviate from the formula amount if applying it would be inequitable.

As of June 2026. Reviewed every 3 months. Verify with your local clerk's office.

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Getting divorced with children in Delaware costs $175 to file ($165 petition fee plus a $10 court security fee), requires a six-month separation period before the final decree, and resolves custody under the best-interests-of-the-child standard set in 13 Del. C. § 722. Delaware is a pure no-fault state where the only ground is that the marriage is irretrievably broken under 13 Del. C. § 1505. Parents of children under 18 must complete a court-certified parenting education course and attend mandatory mediation before any custody trial.

Key Facts: Divorce With Children in Delaware (2026)

ItemDelaware Requirement
Filing Fee$165 petition + $10 court security fee = $175 total (as of March 2026; verify with your local clerk)
Waiting Period6-month separation before final decree
Residency Requirement6 months continuous residence by either spouse before filing (§ 1504(a))
GroundsNo-fault only: marriage irretrievably broken (§ 1505)
Custody StandardBest interests of the child, 8 factors (§ 722)
Child Support ModelMelson Formula (Family Court Civil Rules 500–510)
Property DivisionEquitable distribution (§ 1513)
CourtDelaware Family Court (New Castle, Kent, Sussex)
Mandatory StepsParenting education class + mediation

How Does Divorce With Children Work in Delaware?

Divorce with children in Delaware proceeds through the Family Court under 13 Del. C. § 1505, which permits dissolution only on the no-fault ground that the marriage is irretrievably broken. A parent files a Petition for Divorce, satisfies the six-month residency requirement under 13 Del. C. § 1504(a), and completes a six-month separation before the court enters a final decree. When minor children are involved, custody, residential placement, and child support become separate determinations that the court decides under the best-interests standard, often in proceedings that continue independently of the divorce itself. Delaware Family Court handles the entire matter — divorce, custody, and support — in a single specialized court system designed for family disputes.

The presence of children triggers additional mandatory steps that do not apply to childless divorces. Parents of any child under 18 must complete a certified parenting education program costing no more than $100 per parent (typically around $50). Filing a divorce petition that involves children also activates an automatic preliminary injunction under 13 Del. C. § 1509, prohibiting either parent from removing the children from Delaware without written consent or a court order. These protections ensure stability for children while the legal process unfolds.

What Is the Residency Requirement to File for Divorce in Delaware?

To file for divorce with children in Delaware, either you or your spouse must have lived continuously in the state for at least six months immediately before filing, under 13 Del. C. § 1504(a). Active-duty members of the U.S. armed forces stationed in Delaware for six or more continuous months also satisfy this requirement. There is no separate county-level residency rule.

Delaware imposes a single statewide six-month residency threshold rather than a longer waiting period seen in some states. You file in the Family Court of the county where either spouse resides — New Castle County (Wilmington), Kent County (Dover), or Sussex County (Georgetown). The residency requirement is jurisdictional, meaning the court cannot hear your case without it being met. Military families benefit from a specific accommodation: service members stationed in Delaware count toward residency even if Delaware is not their legal domicile. If neither spouse meets the six-month threshold, the petition will be dismissed, and you must wait until the requirement is satisfied before refiling. Verifying residency early prevents costly delays in cases involving children, where prompt resolution of custody matters often serves the family's interests.

What Are the Grounds for Divorce in Delaware?

Delaware is exclusively a no-fault divorce state. The sole legal ground is that the marriage is irretrievably broken and reconciliation is improbable, under 13 Del. C. § 1505. Courts do not assign blame and will grant a divorce even when one spouse objects, provided the statutory conditions are met.

Under § 1505(b), a marriage qualifies as irretrievably broken through four distinct circumstances. The most common is voluntary separation for at least six months. A marriage is also irretrievably broken when separation results from the respondent's misconduct — including adultery, physical or mental abuse, desertion, habitual drunkenness, drug addiction, or conviction of a crime carrying one or more years of imprisonment. Separation caused by the respondent's mental illness, or by incompatibility without regard to fault, also satisfies the statute. Critically, the misconduct ground under § 1505(b)(2) eliminates the six-month separation requirement, potentially producing a faster divorce — but only if the filing spouse proves the allegations with evidence presented to the court. For most parents, the voluntary-separation route remains the simplest path because it avoids contested evidentiary hearings that can prolong proceedings and heighten conflict harmful to children.

How Is Child Custody Decided in a Delaware Divorce?

Child custody in a Delaware divorce is decided under the best-interests-of-the-child standard in 13 Del. C. § 722, which requires courts to weigh eight statutory factors. Delaware distinguishes between legal custody (decision-making authority over education, health, and welfare) and residential placement (where the child primarily lives). No parent is presumed superior based on sex.

The eight best-interest factors under § 722 are: (1) the wishes of the child's parents regarding custody and residential arrangements; (2) the wishes of the child; (3) the child's interaction and relationships with parents, grandparents, siblings, and other household members; (4) the child's adjustment to home, school, and community; (5) the mental and physical health of all individuals involved; (6) past and present compliance by both parents with their parental rights and responsibilities; (7) evidence of domestic violence; and (8) the criminal history of any party or household member. No single factor is automatically determinative — judges weigh each based on the specific circumstances. Delaware law does not set an age at which a child may choose a custodial parent, but courts give greater weight to mature children who articulate reasoned preferences. Evidence of domestic violence is a mandatory factor, even when not committed in the child's presence.

What Is the Domestic Violence Presumption in Delaware Custody Cases?

Delaware applies a rebuttable presumption that a perpetrator of domestic violence shall not receive sole or joint custody or primary residential placement of a child, under 13 Del. C. § 705A. This presumption is one of the strongest child-protection provisions in Delaware family law and applies even when abuse did not occur in the child's presence.

When credible evidence establishes that a parent committed acts of domestic violence, the court presumes that awarding that parent custody is contrary to the child's best interests. The accused parent bears the burden of rebutting this presumption by demonstrating that custody or contact would nonetheless serve the child's welfare. Courts may order supervised visitation, require completion of a batterer's intervention program, or impose other conditions before restoring contact. Domestic violence also functions as a mandatory factor under the broader § 722 analysis, meaning it influences custody outcomes through two reinforcing statutory channels. Parents experiencing domestic violence should document incidents and may seek a Protection From Abuse order, which can establish temporary custody while the divorce proceeds. The Delaware Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-701-0456) and the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233) provide confidential support and safety planning for parents navigating divorce amid abuse.

What Is a Parenting Plan and Is It Required in Delaware?

A parenting plan in Delaware is a written agreement specifying how divorcing parents will share legal custody, residential placement, and decision-making for their children. Delaware Family Court strongly encourages parents to submit a proposed parenting plan, and a court-approved plan becomes a binding custody order enforceable under 13 Del. C. § 728.

An effective Delaware parenting plan addresses several core areas of co-parenting. It allocates legal custody — whether joint or sole — covering major decisions about the child's education, healthcare, and religious upbringing. It establishes a residential schedule, including weekday and weekend time, holiday rotation, school breaks, and summer arrangements. A complete plan also defines transportation logistics for exchanges, communication protocols between parents and with the child, methods for resolving future disputes, and rules for relocation. Delaware courts favor arrangements that maximize each child's continuing relationship with both fit parents. When parents reach agreement through mediation, the resulting parenting plan typically receives judicial approval without a contested hearing, saving time and reducing the emotional toll on children. When parents cannot agree, the court constructs the plan after applying the § 722 factors. A well-drafted parenting plan reduces future co-parenting conflict by anticipating common flashpoints — holidays, extracurricular activities, and schedule changes — before they arise.

How Is Child Support Calculated in Delaware?

Delaware calculates child support using the Melson Formula, a unique three-step method codified in Family Court Civil Rules 500–510 and used by only three states (Delaware, Montana, and Hawaii). For 2026, the formula first reserves a self-support allowance for each parent, then allocates primary support, then applies a Standard of Living Adjustment (SOLA) sharing additional income with the children.

The Melson Formula rests on three principles: each parent is entitled to enough income for basic needs; parents may not retain more than necessary for basic needs while children's needs go unmet; and children share in any additional parental income above subsistence. The 2026 calculation reserves a self-support allowance of approximately $1,570 per month for each parent before support is computed. Primary support is calculated using a formula of roughly $410 per child plus $370, allocated between parents in proportion to their net available incomes. SOLA percentages then share remaining income with the children, ranging from about 12% for one child to 21% for three children. The formula imputes a minimum income of roughly $2,390 per month to a voluntarily unemployed parent. Both parents must support children until age 18, or until age 19 if the child remains enrolled in high school. Work-related childcare costs are added and divided proportionally.

How Much Does It Cost and How Long Does Divorce With Children Take?

The filing fee for divorce with children in Delaware is $175 total — a $165 petition fee plus a $10 court security fee — as of March 2026. Verify current amounts with your local Family Court clerk. Beyond filing, the minimum timeline runs about six to eight months because of the mandatory six-month separation period plus mediation and parenting-education requirements.

Delaware permits filing the petition before the six-month separation completes under 13 Del. C. § 1507(e), which can shorten the overall timeline by four to six weeks compared to waiting. Additional costs include service of process ($10 to $100 depending on method), motion fees ($5 to $25 each), certified copies ($10 per document), and the parenting education class (up to $100 per parent). Indigent filers may apply for a fee waiver by submitting an Affidavit in Support of Application to Proceed in Forma Pauperis; eligibility generally requires income at or below 150% of the federal poverty level, and approval waives all filing and service costs. Contested custody disputes that proceed to trial substantially increase both timeline and expense, often adding attorney fees of several thousand dollars and extending the case well beyond a year.

Delaware Divorce Cost & Timeline Comparison

ScenarioEstimated TimelineEstimated Cost (Filing + Court Fees)
Uncontested, no custody dispute6–8 months$175–$400
Uncontested with agreed parenting plan6–9 months$275–$600
Contested custody, mediated settlement9–14 months$1,500–$10,000+ (with attorney)
Contested custody, trial12–24+ months$10,000–$50,000+ (with attorney)

What Mandatory Steps Apply to Parents in a Delaware Divorce?

Parents divorcing in Delaware with a child under 18 must complete two mandatory steps: a certified parenting education course and Family Court mediation. The parenting class costs no more than $100 per parent (typically around $50) and runs six to eight hours, while mediation must conclude before any custody trial can proceed.

Delaware's parenting education requirement applies to every divorce involving a child under 18. Each county administers its own certified program and sets its own fee within the statutory cap, helping parents understand how to support children through family transition. Mediation is equally mandatory: Delaware Family Court requires it in all custody, visitation, child support, and guardianship proceedings. A court-employed mediator meets with both parents to identify disputed issues and attempt settlement, and no trial occurs until mediation concludes unless the court orders otherwise. The automatic preliminary injunction under 13 Del. C. § 1509 also takes effect upon filing, barring either parent from relocating the children out of Delaware without written consent or court permission. These steps reflect Delaware's policy of prioritizing children's stability and encouraging cooperative co-parenting over adversarial litigation, which research consistently links to better outcomes for children of divorce.

Frequently Asked Questions

Can I get divorced with children in Delaware without going to court?

Most uncontested divorces with children in Delaware are resolved through paperwork and mediation rather than a contested trial. However, Delaware Family Court requires mandatory mediation in all custody and support matters, and parents of children under 18 must complete a parenting education course. A judge must still approve the final decree and any parenting plan.

How long does a divorce with children take in Delaware?

A divorce with children in Delaware takes a minimum of six to eight months because of the mandatory six-month separation period plus mediation and parenting education. Uncontested cases with an agreed parenting plan typically finalize in six to nine months. Contested custody disputes requiring trial can extend 12 to 24 months or longer.

What is the residency requirement for divorce in Delaware?

To file for divorce in Delaware, either spouse must have lived continuously in the state for at least six months immediately before filing, under 13 Del. C. § 1504(a). Active-duty service members stationed in Delaware for six or more months also qualify. There is no separate county residency requirement within Delaware.

How much does it cost to file for divorce with children in Delaware?

The filing fee is $175 total — a $165 petition fee plus a $10 court security fee — as of March 2026. Additional costs include service of process ($10–$100), the parenting education class (up to $100 per parent), and certified copies ($10 each). Low-income filers may apply for a fee waiver. Verify current amounts with your local clerk.

How is child custody decided in Delaware?

Delaware courts decide custody under the best-interests-of-the-child standard in 13 Del. C. § 722, weighing eight statutory factors including each parent's wishes, the child's wishes, the child's relationships and adjustment, everyone's health, parental compliance, domestic violence evidence, and criminal history. No parent is favored based on sex, and no single factor is automatically decisive.

At what age can a child choose which parent to live with in Delaware?

Delaware law does not set a specific age at which a child can choose their custodial parent. Under 13 Del. C. § 722, the child's wishes are one of eight best-interest factors. Courts give greater weight to mature children who can articulate reasoned preferences, but the judge always makes the final custody determination.

How is child support calculated in Delaware?

Delaware uses the Melson Formula, a three-step method in Family Court Civil Rules 500–510. For 2026, it reserves about $1,570 per month per parent for self-support, calculates primary support (roughly $410 per child plus $370), then applies a Standard of Living Adjustment of 12% to 21% depending on the number of children. Support continues until age 18, or 19 if the child is still in high school.

Does domestic violence affect custody in Delaware?

Yes. Delaware applies a rebuttable presumption under 13 Del. C. § 705A that a perpetrator of domestic violence shall not receive sole or joint custody or primary residence. Evidence of domestic violence is also a mandatory best-interest factor under § 722, even when the abuse did not occur in the child's presence. The accused parent must rebut the presumption.

Do both parents have to attend a parenting class in Delaware?

Yes. Delaware requires every parent in a divorce involving a child under 18 to complete a certified parenting education course. The class runs six to eight hours and costs no more than $100 per parent (typically around $50). Each county administers its own program. The court will not finalize the divorce until both parents complete the course.

Can I move out of Delaware with my children during a divorce?

No, not without permission. Filing a divorce petition involving children triggers an automatic preliminary injunction under 13 Del. C. § 1509 that prohibits either parent from removing the children from Delaware without the other parent's written consent or a court order. Violating this injunction can seriously harm your custody position.

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Written By

Antonio G. Jimenez, Esq.

Florida Bar No. 21022 | Covering Delaware divorce law

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