10 Things You Should Never Do During a Divorce in Maine (2026 Guide)

By Antonio G. Jimenez, Esq.Maine16 min read

At a Glance

Residency requirement:
At least one spouse must have resided in Maine for six months immediately before filing, or the plaintiff must be a Maine resident and the couple was married in Maine, or the plaintiff is a Maine resident and the couple lived in Maine when the grounds arose, or the defendant is a Maine resident (19-A M.R.S.A. §901(1)). There is no separate county residency requirement.
Filing fee:
$120–$175
Waiting period:
Maine uses the Income Shares Model to calculate child support under 19-A M.R.S.A. Chapter 63. Both parents' gross incomes are combined and applied to a state-issued schedule that estimates the cost of raising children. Each parent's share of the support obligation is then calculated proportionally based on their percentage of the combined income, with adjustments for health insurance, childcare, and extraordinary medical expenses.

As of April 2026. Reviewed every 3 months. Verify with your local clerk's office.

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Maine divorce courts operate under equitable distribution rules governed by Title 19-A, § 953, and a single misstep during proceedings can permanently shift property division, spousal support, and parental rights against you. The filing fee to start a Maine divorce is $120, the mandatory waiting period is 60 days, and contested cases average 12 to 18 months from filing to final decree. Understanding what not to do during divorce in Maine is just as important as knowing the correct legal steps, because Maine judges have broad discretion to penalize misconduct under Title 19-A, § 951-A and Title 19-A, § 1653.

Key Facts: Divorce in Maine

RequirementDetails
Filing Fee$120 (as of April 2026; verify with your local clerk)
Waiting Period60 days minimum after service of process
Residency Requirement6 months of good-faith residency, or married in Maine, or cause arose in Maine (Title 19-A, § 901)
GroundsNo-fault (irreconcilable differences) plus 7 fault-based grounds (Title 19-A, § 902)
Property DivisionEquitable distribution (Title 19-A, § 953)
Spousal Support Types5 types: general, transitional, reimbursement, nominal, interim (Title 19-A, § 951-A)
Custody StandardBest interest of the child, 18 factors (Title 19-A, § 1653)
Court Websitecourts.maine.gov

1. Do Not Hide, Transfer, or Dissipate Marital Assets

Maine courts impose an automatic preliminary injunction under Title 19-A, § 903 that prohibits both spouses from transferring, encumbering, concealing, or disposing of marital property once a divorce complaint is filed. Violating this injunction is one of the biggest divorce mistakes a Maine spouse can make, and courts can sanction offenders with contempt of court findings, adverse property division adjustments, and attorney fee awards.

The 2023 revision to Section 903, enacted through LD 1730, updated the preliminary injunction rules to explicitly permit spending on necessities of life, including housing, utilities, food, transportation, school tuition, childcare, and medical expenses. Regular and required minimum withdrawals from retirement accounts are also permitted. However, any expenditure beyond these carved-out categories risks judicial scrutiny.

Maine addresses asset dissipation through two statutory mechanisms. Under Title 19-A, § 953, the court considers economic abuse as a factor when dividing marital property, which means a spouse who depletes accounts or destroys property may receive a smaller share. Under Title 19-A, § 951-A, economic misconduct resulting in the diminution of marital property or income is one of the 17 statutory factors for spousal support, meaning the innocent spouse may receive higher and longer alimony payments. A Maine spouse who transferred $50,000 from a joint brokerage account into a friend's name after filing would face both a reduced property share and elevated spousal support obligation.

2. Do Not Ignore or Violate the Automatic Preliminary Injunction

Maine is one of the states that imposes an automatic preliminary injunction at the moment of filing, restricting both parties from dissipating assets, canceling insurance, or harassing the other spouse under Title 19-A, § 903. The injunction takes effect immediately upon service of the Family Matter Summons (Form FM-038) and remains in force until the divorce is finalized or the court modifies it. Ignoring this order is a common divorce error that can result in contempt findings, monetary sanctions, and an unfavorable division of property.

The injunction covers five specific prohibitions: transferring property beyond necessities, removing the other party from insurance coverage, incurring unreasonable debt, harassing or intimidating the other party, and relocating children out of state without court approval or written consent. Maine courts treat violations seriously because the injunction exists to preserve the marital estate during litigation. A spouse who cancels the other party's health insurance or runs up $20,000 in credit card debt after filing faces direct consequences at the final hearing.

3. Do Not Use Children as Leverage or Withhold Parenting Time

Maine courts evaluate parental rights and responsibilities under 18 statutory factors outlined in Title 19-A, § 1653, and a parent's willingness to encourage the child's relationship with the other parent is an explicit factor in the best-interest analysis. Withholding court-ordered parenting time, making disparaging remarks about the other parent in front of children, or using children as messengers between households are among the most damaging divorce mistakes a parent can make in Maine.

Factor M of Section 1653 specifically evaluates each parent's capacity to cooperate and make joint decisions regarding the child. Factor N assesses each parent's willingness to support the child's continuing relationship with the other parent. A parent who denies the other parent's scheduled weekend visits or coaches children to resist contact directly undermines their own position in custody proceedings. Maine judges assign equal consideration regardless of a parent's or child's gender or age, so neither parent has a presumptive advantage that might offset obstructive behavior.

Maine courts also consider a history of domestic abuse under Factor O when awarding parental rights, which means that a parent with legitimate safety concerns should document those concerns through proper legal channels, such as a Protection From Abuse order, rather than unilaterally withholding parenting time.

4. Do Not Make Major Financial Decisions Without Legal Counsel

Maine divides marital property under the equitable distribution standard of Title 19-A, § 953, which means the court distributes assets in proportions it considers just after weighing multiple factors including each spouse's economic circumstances, the contribution of each spouse (including homemaker contributions), and the desirability of awarding the family home to the parent with primary residence. Making major unilateral financial decisions during divorce, such as selling the family home, liquidating retirement accounts, or taking on new debt, can permanently damage your position.

Marital property in Maine includes all property acquired by either spouse after the marriage, with exceptions for gifts, bequests, inheritances, property exchanged for premarital assets, and property acquired after a decree of legal separation. A spouse who sells a $300,000 marital home without court approval or liquidates a $150,000 IRA to fund a new business venture during pending proceedings violates both the preliminary injunction and the court's ability to equitably divide the estate. The court-ordered mediation process, which costs $160 total ($80 per party), exists specifically to help spouses reach agreements on financial matters without unilateral action.

5. Do Not Post on Social Media About Your Divorce

Maine family courts routinely admit social media posts, photographs, check-ins, and direct messages as evidence in divorce proceedings. A single post showing expensive purchases, vacations, or a new relationship can contradict sworn financial affidavits and undermine credibility before the judge. Social media evidence can affect property division under Title 19-A, § 953, spousal support determinations under Title 19-A, § 951-A, and parental rights evaluations under Title 19-A, § 1653.

A parent seeking primary residence who posts photos of heavy drinking or reckless behavior gives the opposing counsel ready-made exhibits that speak directly to the 18 best-interest factors. A spouse claiming inability to pay spousal support who posts vacation photos from a Caribbean resort undermines their financial testimony. The safest approach during Maine divorce proceedings is to assume that every post, comment, like, and private message will be presented to the judge. Adjusting privacy settings does not protect content from discovery requests, as Maine courts can compel production of social media records through standard discovery procedures.

6. Do Not Refuse to Participate in Court-Ordered Mediation

Maine courts frequently order mediation in contested divorces, and the cost is $160 total ($80 per party for the initial session). Under Title 19-A, § 902, when one party alleges irreconcilable differences and the other denies them, the court may order counseling, and refusal to attend counseling is considered prima facie evidence that irreconcilable differences exist. Refusing to participate in mediation or counseling ordered by the court signals unwillingness to cooperate and can accelerate unfavorable outcomes.

Maine's mediation process is designed to reduce the cost and duration of contested divorces, which average 12 to 18 months compared to 2 to 6 months for uncontested cases. A spouse who refuses mediation forces the case onto a contested trial track, increasing legal fees that commonly range from $10,000 to $30,000 for contested Maine divorces. The court views refusal to mediate as relevant to the cooperative-capacity factors in both property division and parental rights determinations.

7. Do Not Neglect to Document Everything

Maine divorce proceedings require financial disclosure from both parties, and failure to maintain thorough records of income, expenses, assets, and debts puts a spouse at a severe disadvantage during equitable distribution under Title 19-A, § 953. The court considers each spouse's economic circumstances at the time of division, which means the spouse with better documentation holds a strategic advantage.

Every Maine divorce spouse should maintain organized records of the following: bank statements for all accounts (joint and individual) for the 3 years preceding the filing, retirement account statements (401(k), IRA, pension), real estate appraisals and mortgage statements, credit card statements showing debts and spending patterns, tax returns for at least 3 years, pay stubs and employment records, and a detailed inventory of personal property with estimated values. The $120 filing fee initiates a process that may divide hundreds of thousands of dollars in marital assets, and the party with incomplete records bears the burden of that information gap.

8. Do Not Start a New Relationship Before Your Divorce Is Final

Although Maine is a no-fault divorce state where irreconcilable differences serve as sufficient grounds under Title 19-A, § 902, adultery remains one of the 7 fault-based grounds for divorce and can influence spousal support and property division outcomes. Beginning a new romantic relationship before the divorce decree is entered creates unnecessary complications that frequently escalate conflict, increase legal fees, and provide ammunition for the opposing party.

Under Title 19-A, § 951-A, courts evaluate 17 factors when determining spousal support, including the standard of living established during the marriage and economic misconduct. A new relationship that involves spending marital funds on a romantic partner, such as gifts, dinners, trips, or shared housing expenses, constitutes economic misconduct that diminishes the marital estate. For marriages under 10 years, Maine law creates a rebuttable presumption that general spousal support is not available, but economic misconduct from a new relationship can shift that presumption. For marriages of 10 to 20 years, general support is limited to half the length of the marriage, and for marriages over 20 years, there is no statutory cap on duration.

9. Do Not Represent Yourself in a Contested Divorce

Maine permits pro se divorce filings, and the $120 filing fee is the same whether a party has legal representation or not. For truly uncontested divorces where both spouses agree on all terms, self-representation through the Maine court's self-help forms at courts.maine.gov can be cost-effective. However, representing yourself in a contested Maine divorce involving disputes over property division, spousal support, or parental rights is one of the most consequential divorce mistakes a person can make.

Maine's equitable distribution statute, Title 19-A, § 953, requires judges to weigh multiple competing factors with no fixed formula. The 5 types of spousal support under Title 19-A, § 951-A, each with different duration rules and eligibility criteria, demand strategic knowledge about which type to request and how to present evidence supporting the claim. The 18 best-interest factors for parental rights under Title 19-A, § 1653 require comprehensive evidence presentation. A self-represented party who fails to properly introduce evidence, object to inadmissible testimony, or argue the correct legal standard may permanently lose rights that an attorney could have preserved. Fee waivers are available for TANF, SSI, or general assistance recipients who cannot afford the filing fee, and many Maine attorneys offer unbundled legal services for specific aspects of the case.

10. Do Not Ignore the Tax Consequences of Your Settlement

Maine divorce settlements involve transfers of property, retirement accounts, and ongoing support payments that carry significant federal and state tax implications. Under Title 19-A, § 953, the court considers each spouse's economic circumstances when dividing property, but a settlement that appears equitable on paper can become lopsided after taxes. Failing to account for tax consequences is a common divorce error that costs Maine spouses thousands of dollars.

Retirement account divisions require a Qualified Domestic Relations Order (QDRO) for 401(k) and pension plans. A direct withdrawal from a retirement account instead of a QDRO-facilitated transfer triggers a 10% early withdrawal penalty plus ordinary income tax, which for a $200,000 retirement account could mean $50,000 or more in unnecessary taxes. The marital home creates another tax trap: a spouse who receives the $400,000 house but gives up $400,000 in retirement assets receives a less valuable package because the house has a stepped-up cost basis while the retirement assets face full taxation upon withdrawal. Maine has a top individual income tax rate of 7.15%, which applies on top of federal taxes to retirement distributions and capital gains from property sales.

Spousal support payments are taxable income to the recipient and deductible by the payer for Maine state tax purposes, following the pre-2019 federal rules at the state level. Child support, by contrast, is neither taxable nor deductible. The characterization of payments as spousal support versus child support in the divorce decree directly affects each party's annual tax burden.

What Are the Residency Requirements for Filing Divorce in Maine?

Maine requires 6 months of good-faith residency before filing for divorce under Title 19-A, § 901. Maine law provides 4 alternative bases for jurisdiction. A plaintiff may file if the plaintiff has resided in Maine for at least 6 months before the filing date. Alternatively, the plaintiff may file if the plaintiff is a Maine resident and the parties were married in Maine, or if the plaintiff is a Maine resident and the parties cohabited in Maine when the cause of divorce accrued. The defendant's Maine residency also provides a basis for filing regardless of where the plaintiff lives. Meeting any one of these 4 conditions satisfies the residency requirement.

How Is Property Divided in a Maine Divorce?

Maine is an equitable distribution state, meaning courts divide marital property in proportions they consider just rather than splitting everything 50/50 under Title 19-A, § 953. Marital property includes all assets acquired by either spouse during the marriage. Separate property, which includes gifts, inheritances, and assets owned before the marriage, is excluded from division. The court weighs factors including each spouse's contribution to the marriage (including homemaker contributions), the value of property set apart to each spouse, economic circumstances at the time of division, and the desirability of awarding the family home to the custodial parent. Economic abuse by a spouse, as defined in Title 19-A, § 4102(5), is also a statutory factor that can shift the distribution.

Frequently Asked Questions

What is the biggest mistake you can make in a divorce in Maine?

The single biggest divorce mistake in Maine is hiding or dissipating marital assets in violation of the automatic preliminary injunction under Title 19-A, § 903. Maine courts penalize this through adverse property division under Section 953 and increased spousal support under Section 951-A. Violations can also result in contempt of court findings and attorney fee awards to the innocent spouse.

How long does a divorce take in Maine?

Uncontested Maine divorces typically take 2 to 6 months from filing to final decree, while contested divorces average 12 to 18 months. The mandatory minimum waiting period is 60 days after service of process before a court can schedule the final hearing. Complex cases involving significant assets, business valuations, or custody disputes may extend beyond 18 months.

What are the grounds for divorce in Maine?

Maine recognizes no-fault divorce based on irreconcilable marital differences plus 7 fault-based grounds under Title 19-A, § 902: adultery, impotence, extreme cruelty, utter desertion for 3 consecutive years, gross intoxication habits, nonsupport despite ability to pay, and cruel and abusive treatment. Most Maine divorces proceed on the no-fault ground.

How much does it cost to file for divorce in Maine?

The filing fee for divorce in Maine is $120, paid to the District Court clerk. As of April 2026, verify with your local clerk. Additional costs include $5 for the summons form, $25 to $50 for sheriff service of process, and $10 for an Abstract of Divorce Decree certification. Court-ordered mediation costs $160 total ($80 per party). Fee waivers are available for recipients of TANF, SSI, or general assistance.

Can I get alimony in Maine if my marriage lasted less than 10 years?

Maine law creates a rebuttable presumption under Title 19-A, § 951-A that general spousal support is not available for marriages under 10 years. However, transitional support for short-term workforce reentry and reimbursement support for economic misconduct or educational contributions remain available regardless of marriage length. The presumption against general support can be overcome with sufficient evidence.

What not to do during divorce in Maine regarding social media?

Maine family courts admit social media posts, photos, messages, and check-ins as evidence in divorce proceedings. Posts showing expensive purchases can contradict financial affidavits. Photos of excessive drinking can affect the 18 best-interest custody factors under Title 19-A, § 1653. Changing privacy settings does not protect against court-ordered discovery. The safest approach is to assume everything posted will be seen by the judge.

Does Maine require mediation before a divorce trial?

Maine courts frequently order mediation in contested divorces at a cost of $160 ($80 per party). Under Title 19-A, § 902, when one spouse alleges irreconcilable differences and the other denies them, the court may order counseling. Refusal to attend is prima facie evidence that irreconcilable differences exist and can accelerate an unfavorable outcome.

How does Maine determine child custody in a divorce?

Maine courts award parental rights and responsibilities based on the best interest of the child, evaluating 18 statutory factors under Title 19-A, § 1653. Key factors include each parent's relationship with the child, the child's preference (if age-appropriate), stability of living arrangements, history of domestic abuse, each parent's capacity to encourage the child's relationship with the other parent, and each parent's willingness to cooperate on joint decisions. Gender and age receive equal consideration.

What happens if I date someone before my Maine divorce is final?

Starting a new relationship before the divorce decree is entered can affect spousal support under Title 19-A, § 951-A if marital funds are spent on a new partner, constituting economic misconduct. Adultery remains a fault-based ground under Title 19-A, § 902. A new relationship also tends to escalate conflict, increase legal fees, and provide the opposing party with evidence of both infidelity and financial mismanagement.

Can I file for divorce in Maine if I just moved here?

Maine requires at least 6 months of good-faith residency before a plaintiff can file for divorce under Title 19-A, § 901. However, if the parties were married in Maine or the cause of divorce arose while both parties resided in Maine, the 6-month requirement is waived for a plaintiff who is a current Maine resident. If the defendant is a Maine resident, the plaintiff can file regardless of their own residency status.

Frequently Asked Questions

What is the biggest mistake you can make in a divorce in Maine?

The single biggest divorce mistake in Maine is hiding or dissipating marital assets in violation of the automatic preliminary injunction under Title 19-A, § 903. Maine courts penalize this through adverse property division under Section 953 and increased spousal support under Section 951-A. Violations can also result in contempt of court findings and attorney fee awards to the innocent spouse.

How long does a divorce take in Maine?

Uncontested Maine divorces typically take 2 to 6 months from filing to final decree, while contested divorces average 12 to 18 months. The mandatory minimum waiting period is 60 days after service of process before a court can schedule the final hearing. Complex cases involving significant assets, business valuations, or custody disputes may extend beyond 18 months.

What are the grounds for divorce in Maine?

Maine recognizes no-fault divorce based on irreconcilable marital differences plus 7 fault-based grounds under Title 19-A, § 902: adultery, impotence, extreme cruelty, utter desertion for 3 consecutive years, gross intoxication habits, nonsupport despite ability to pay, and cruel and abusive treatment. Most Maine divorces proceed on the no-fault ground.

How much does it cost to file for divorce in Maine?

The filing fee for divorce in Maine is $120, paid to the District Court clerk. As of April 2026, verify with your local clerk. Additional costs include $5 for the summons form, $25 to $50 for sheriff service of process, and $10 for an Abstract of Divorce Decree certification. Court-ordered mediation costs $160 total ($80 per party). Fee waivers are available for recipients of TANF, SSI, or general assistance.

Can I get alimony in Maine if my marriage lasted less than 10 years?

Maine law creates a rebuttable presumption under Title 19-A, § 951-A that general spousal support is not available for marriages under 10 years. However, transitional support for short-term workforce reentry and reimbursement support for economic misconduct or educational contributions remain available regardless of marriage length. The presumption against general support can be overcome with sufficient evidence.

What not to do during divorce in Maine regarding social media?

Maine family courts admit social media posts, photos, messages, and check-ins as evidence in divorce proceedings. Posts showing expensive purchases can contradict financial affidavits. Photos of excessive drinking can affect the 18 best-interest custody factors under Title 19-A, § 1653. Changing privacy settings does not protect against court-ordered discovery. The safest approach is to assume everything posted will be seen by the judge.

Does Maine require mediation before a divorce trial?

Maine courts frequently order mediation in contested divorces at a cost of $160 ($80 per party). Under Title 19-A, § 902, when one spouse alleges irreconcilable differences and the other denies them, the court may order counseling. Refusal to attend is prima facie evidence that irreconcilable differences exist and can accelerate an unfavorable outcome.

How does Maine determine child custody in a divorce?

Maine courts award parental rights and responsibilities based on the best interest of the child, evaluating 18 statutory factors under Title 19-A, § 1653. Key factors include each parent's relationship with the child, the child's preference (if age-appropriate), stability of living arrangements, history of domestic abuse, each parent's capacity to encourage the child's relationship with the other parent, and each parent's willingness to cooperate on joint decisions.

What happens if I date someone before my Maine divorce is final?

Starting a new relationship before the divorce decree is entered can affect spousal support under Title 19-A, § 951-A if marital funds are spent on a new partner, constituting economic misconduct. Adultery remains a fault-based ground under Title 19-A, § 902. A new relationship also tends to escalate conflict, increase legal fees, and provide the opposing party with evidence of both infidelity and financial mismanagement.

Can I file for divorce in Maine if I just moved here?

Maine requires at least 6 months of good-faith residency before a plaintiff can file for divorce under Title 19-A, § 901. However, if the parties were married in Maine or the cause of divorce arose while both parties resided in Maine, the 6-month requirement is waived for a plaintiff who is a current Maine resident. If the defendant is a Maine resident, the plaintiff can file regardless of their own residency status.

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Antonio G. Jimenez, Esq.

Florida Bar No. 21022 | Covering Maine divorce law

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